DEAR JANE: My boyfriend keeps walking around NAKED in front of my friends – he flipped out when I told him it makes me uncomfortable

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Dear Jane,

I moved in with my boyfriend a few months ago – it’s the first time that either of us have lived with a partner and it has been wonderful. We were in complete agreement about décor, chore sharing, and splitting costs, which I know are often the topics that can cause issues with couples who move in.

But three weeks ago, I was hosting a few of my friends for a girls’ night and my boyfriend just strolled through the living room totally naked. 

I was absolutely stunned – everyone was. One of my friends even screamed. I figured he’d forgotten we were there, and I jumped up to shield him from view. 

I bundled him out of the room… but then he just stared at me like I was the one who’d gone insane. He asked me why I was acting so strangely when he was just being comfortable in his own home.

Dear Jane, my boyfriend keeps walking around naked in front of my friends – I told him it makes me uncomfortable and he flipped out 

I said we’d chat about it later and went back in to make excuses to my friends.

Since then, it’s happened three more times. In fact any time I have friends over, it’s like a trigger for him to strip naked and go on a stroll around the house. 

I’ve tried telling him so many times how uncomfortable it makes me, how awkward it is for my friends, and I’ve asked so many times if he can please just cover up when we have company over. Every time, he’s looked so hurt. 

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He asked me why I’m trying to make something perfectly natural feel so gross and creepy. He accused me of trying to make him feel like a pervert when all he’s trying to do is relax in his home.

I don’t want to make him feel like a creep at all, but I’m now terrified to invite any of my friends over because they all find it so uncomfortable and awkward. 

I can’t work out if he’s telling me the truth or if these naked displays are some weird way of him claiming his territory?

Please help me find some common ground here.

From,

Naked and Not So Afraid

Dear Naked and Not So Afraid,

Your boyfriend is asking why you’re making something perfectly natural feel gross and creepy? Perhaps it’s because it is gross and creepy? 

Not that there is anything inherently wrong with nakedness – if we were all in Sweden, I’m sure your boyfriend and all your friends would merrily jump naked into a sauna together, but we are not in Sweden, and this is just wrong.

I have no idea why he is doing it, other than perhaps being unable to harness his exhibitionist tendencies. 

Whatever the case, it’s disrespectful and insensitive to your guests, and to you. I imagine they were expecting tequila, not testicles. The fact that he doesn’t see his behavior as wrong is cause for concern.

You have the right to have your friends over, and you have the right to ensure your boyfriend is fully-clothed for the duration. 

I’m wondering whether he would do the same thing if your family were visiting. 

Either way, it has to stop. 

If he doesn’t agree, I would suggest this is a fatal flaw, and it’s time to move on to someone who is fully committed to his clothing, or at the very least, a robe.

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