Coleen Rooney admits she failed to realise husband Wayne was ‘really struggling’ after her miscarriage: ‘The men get forgotten about a lot’

• If you have been affected by this story, you can seek advice at www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk or by calling 01924 200 799 

Coleen Rooney has admitted she failed to realise her husband Wayne was ‘really struggling’ after she had a miscarriage.

The WAG, 37, admitted that she feels men can be ‘forgotten’ during the loss of a child and only noticed his pain when he told her that it had been ‘hard for him as well.’

Coleen and Wayne share four sons – Kai, 14, Klay, 10, Kit, seven, and Cass, five.

The first of Coleen’s two miscarriages came just months after she and Wayne married in a 14th century abbey in Santa Margherita on the Italian Riviera.

Coleen – who also spoke about her miscarriages in her new book My Account – said Wayne had always wanted a child and struggled after they lost the baby.

Tough time: Coleen Rooney has admitted she failed to realise her husband Wayne was ‘really struggling’ after she had a miscarriage

Speaking on the Happy Mum, Happy Baby podcast, she said: ‘Wayne really struggled with it. That’s where I feel like I need to say “it’s not just all about the women, we need to take care of the men as well”. I feel like they get forgotten about.

‘He at one point did say, “I know it’s hard for you, but it’s hard for me as well”. It wasn’t until he said that to me that I realised, “you’re right, it is”. He wanted the baby just as much, if not more, than me.’

Coleen admitted she was much more ‘nervous’ when she became pregnant again, with her eldest son Kai, after her miscarriage.

She went on: ‘I was much more nervous, then [in the first pregnancy] you know the joy of being pregnant overtook the fears but I didn’t really think of the health side of it. 

‘You know, obviously I was doing everything by the book and being you know, healthy but obviously, I didn’t really focus on the baby’s health as much. Second time around, it was constantly on my mind. 

‘And I did go and get more regular checks and more scans than I ever should have. The record amounts of scans I think and it shouldn’t be like that, you know it just it kept me sane and happy.’

Coleen later had a second devastating miscarriage after giving birth to her two eldest sons Kai and Klay.

Of her second miscarriage, she wrote in her book My Account: ‘It’s devastating when something like this happens; of course it is. My feelings about it this time were slightly different, though.

Hard: The WAG admitted that she feels men can be ‘forgotten’ during the loss of a child and only noticed his pain when he told her that it had been ‘hard for him as well’

‘I knew I had two healthy boys and that I’d most likely be able to have another when the time was right. I wasn’t as nervous going forward.’ 

During the interview, Coleen also revealed that her father Tony was in the room for the births of all four of her children.

She revealed her parents Tony and Colette were both in the room with her and Wayne when she gave birth to her sons and told how it was important to her, as they always ‘include everyone in the things we do as a family’.

She said: ‘[My dad’s] been in the room for all four of my babies, it’s something that people have not understood at times… he hasn’t gone down the bottom, he’s always stayed at the top. 

‘I just wanted him to be there when his grandchildren come into the world. Knowing their love of children, it’s such a happy moment for everyone. I’ve been lucky that the hospital have allowed them to be there.’

Coleen also revealed that her eldest son Kai asked to be there when she gave birth to her fourth child Cass and accompanied them to the hospital.

Sweet: During the interview, Coleen also revealed that her father Tony was in the room for the births of all four of her children (pictured with her and Kai in April 2013)

Family: Coleen shares four sons – Kai, 14, Klay, 10, Kit, seven, and Cass, five – with her former footballer husband Wayne

She clarified that Kai wasn’t in the room when she gave birth, but said he came in just after Cass was born and cut the umbilical cord.

The doting mother explained: ‘[Kai] was just amazed at the whole process of pregnancy and he asked “can I be there when you have the baby?” 

‘He wasn’t in the room when I gave birth, because it’s a lovely moment, but it’s not very nice to look at. So he was in the waiting room next door.’

She added: ‘I had Cass and then [Kai] got brought into the room and we said “would you like to cut the cord?” and he did it no problem. I’ve got it on video and watching it back, it’s just a lovely moment.’

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If you have been affected by this story, you can seek advice at www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk or by calling 01924 200 799.

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