{"id":135382,"date":"2023-12-12T08:29:14","date_gmt":"2023-12-12T08:29:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bluemull.com\/?p=135382"},"modified":"2023-12-12T08:29:14","modified_gmt":"2023-12-12T08:29:14","slug":"partying-through-the-pain-vanessa-feltz-haunted-by-heartbreak-one-year-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bluemull.com\/celebrities\/partying-through-the-pain-vanessa-feltz-haunted-by-heartbreak-one-year-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Partying through the pain: Vanessa Feltz haunted by heartbreak one year on"},"content":{"rendered":"

Christmas is supposed to be a time filled with love and laughter, but for Vanessa Feltz, this festive season is likely to bring back painful memories of past heartache.<\/p>\n

It was on 25 december 2022 that Vanessa, 61, learned that her fianc\u00e9 of 16 years, Ben Ofoedu, had cheated on her multiple times, sending her world into freefall.<\/p>\n

Phats & Small singer Ben\u2019s bed-hopping came to light when an anonymous lover sent Vanessa\u2019s daughters, Allegra, 37, and Saskia, 34, \u201cabusive and extremely hurtful\u201d messages on social media, as they prepared to tuck into their family meal.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was on Christmas Day, of all days,\u201d Allegra told The Sun earlier this year. \u201cWe were all together as a family, but Ben was away in pantomime when the messages appeared via Instagram.\u201d<\/p>\n

Vanessa said she felt \u201cbetrayed and panic stricken\u201d by the revelations and now, as the anniversary of the split approaches, the star is reportedly bracing herself as she prepares to relive the hurt all over again.<\/p>\n

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\u201cThere\u2019s no doubt that Vanessa is finding this time of year particularly difficult,\u201d a source told new<\/b>. \u201cShe feels haunted by the previous year. Christmas is a time filled with loved ones, but everything will be in the back of her mind as it\u2019ll be her first one in 16 years without him.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that Vanessa found the split, which she had to navigate so publicly, incredibly difficult. <\/p>\n

In July, the TV presenter told OK! that she\u2019s not \u201cgood\u201d at being on her own, explaining that she\u2019d been going out \u201cevery single night\u201d since separating from her ex.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve just kept really busy. I\u2019ve found that\u2019s the way I can keep going. I\u2019m just not good at being on my own \u2013 it\u2019s not in my DNA,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

Ben, 51, got together with Vanessa in 2005 and the pair quickly fell in love. After just one year of dating, they got engaged. The couple originally planned to tie the knot the following year, but never made it down the aisle.<\/p>\n

In January, Vanessa confirmed their split in a raw and revealing video message to fans, saying, \u201cI feel incredibly sad and I\u2019m pretty disappointed and shocked and all those horrible things, but also full of resolve. I am not going to let this defeat me.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Now, almost a year on from the split, the Talk TV host continues to party away the pain, recently enjoying a performance of Magic Mike Live in London\u2019s West End.<\/p>\n

While wild nights out are keeping Vanessa busy, pals are said to be concerned she\u2019s still using them to mask her broken heart.<\/p>\n

\u201cEven though it looks like she\u2019s moving forward and is out partying all the time, she is still hurt and disappointed that Ben wasn\u2019t the man she thought he was,\u201d our source continued. <\/p>\n

\u201cBut going to events is a distraction and so she doesn\u2019t have time to think about it.<\/p>\n

\u201cShe doesn\u2019t want to be sitting alone, so this is her way of coping. She\u2019s just doing everything she can to not think about Ben just now.\u201d<\/p>\n

Fans on social media have also voiced concerns about the star\u2019s partying, with one urging her to \u201cplease slow down\u201d. Another posted, \u201cShe needs to look after herself.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Hitting the town isn\u2019t the only way Vanessa\u2019s tried to heal her heartbreak. Six months after her split, she jumped head first into the dating world by signing up to Celebs Go Dating.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, Vanessa struggled to connect with her matches and although she ended the show coupled up with potential partner Lenny, it was clear things weren\u2019t meant to last.<\/p>\n

Ben, meanwhile, is said to have moved on after being spotted sharing a cab with reality star Precious Muir.<\/p>\n

As well as hitting her hard emotionally, Vanessa\u2019s split from Ben has taken its toll physically, with the star shedding around 2st after losing her appetite.<\/p>\n

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\u201cPeople might say \u2018well done\u2019 on my weight loss, but I just felt so sick in my heart that I didn\u2019t want to eat anything,\u201d Vanessa said, referring to her \u201cheartache diet\u201d. \u201cI do not recommend it to anybody. I\u2019d much rather be fatter and happier than thinner and miserable.\u201d<\/p>\n

One thing guaranteed to keep Vanessa\u2019s spirits up over Christmas is spending time with her family, including grandchildren Zeke, Neroli, Amiel and Cecily.<\/p>\n

\u201cAs time goes on, Vanessa has realised the split is for the best,\u201d our source explained. \u201cShe\u2019s got wonderful grandchildren and daughters, and she\u2019ll fill every moment this Christmas with them.\u201d<\/p>\n

new<\/b> reached out to Vanessa\u2019s rep for comment but there was no response at the time of going to press.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n