Steve Bland says he has no guilt about finding love again

BBC star Rachael Bland’s widower says he refuses to feel guilty about finding love with a nurse three years after wife’s death from cancer because ‘she wanted me to be happy’

  • Bland, 40, lost wife Rachael, a BBC broadcaster, to breast cancer in 2018
  • The You, Me and the Big C host told Lorraine show that he was asked often if he ‘felt guilty’ for moving on with his life and finding love again with NHS nurse Amy
  • The widower met Amy in 2019 after speaking at Manchester cancer conference
  • Told Lorraine about dating after loss: ‘Why should I feel guilty? I’m 40-years-old and I’ve got the rest of my life ahead of me.’

The husband of BBC broadcaster Rachael Bland, who died from breast cancer in 2018, says he refuses to feel guilty about finding love again with an NHS nurse. 

Steve Bland, who replaced Rachael as one third of the podcast You, Me and the Big C following her death, told ITV’s Lorraine show that people often asked him if he felt guilty about dating again. 

The 40-year-old, dialling into the show from his home in Cheshire, said: ‘It’s one of the most common questions I get asked: ‘Do I feel guilty?’

He said: ‘Why should I? I’m 40-years-old and I’ve got the rest of my life ahead of me.’ 

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Happy: Steve told Lorraine: ‘We need to break down the taboo’ of dating after loss and said his new partner Amy found it tricky to date someone who’d lost a previous partner

Speaking to the Lorraine show from his home in Cheshire, Steve Bland said he was commonly asked if he felt guilty for moving on with his life and finding love again following the death of his late wife Rachael Bland in 2018 from breast cancer 

Referencing the son, Freddie, six, that he shares with Rachael, he said: ‘Rachael wanted me to be happy and wanted Freddie to be happy.

‘We need to break down the taboo and stop worrying about being judged for it. We’re trying to be happy and to make the most of life.’

Steve met Amy, an advanced nurse practitioner at a cancer conference in Manchester in 2019, after he gave a talk about his late wife and her death from primary triple-negative breast cancer. 

He told Lorraine that dating after loss wasn’t always easy for the person in the relationship who hasn’t lost someone.   

‘It’s about looking forward and can be a tricky balance, it’s something Amy and I have talked about it. There’s a lot of focus on the widow/widower. Rachael was high profile and it’s really difficult to feel like you’re not living in their shadow.

Steve met his new partner Amy (pictured together), an advanced nurse practitioner in 2019 at a cancer conference in Manchester

The former BBC radio presenter Rachael (right with Steve and Freddie) was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in 2016 and died in 2018

While Amy (pictured with Steve’s son Freddie) does not relish the limelight, it was out of respect to her that Steve decided to go public with their relationship in 2020

He also praised Damien Lewis and Helen McCrory for going public with a conversation they’d had about dating after loss before Helen’s death from cancer aged 52 on April 16th.

Bland, who accidentally mixed up Rachael and Amy’s names during his chat with Lorraine, said: ‘It’s amazing they talked so openly about it; that does wonders for breaking down taboos.’  

The new series of You, Me and the Big C airs tomorrow. Steve took over from Rachael as a presenter, alongside Deborah James and Lauren Mahon, following her death. 

Rachael (pictured) was a BBC Radio 5 Live broadcaster who also hosted the podcast You, Me And The Big C, a role that Steve has now taken over

He told Lorraine: ‘It’s going back to where the podcast began. Just the three of us. It’s about living in general.’  

Speaking in 2020 about getting togethor with new love Amy, he told the Daily Mail: ‘We took our time but, of course, my life revolves around Freddie so it’s difficult to get to know someone properly without involving them in his life, too’.

‘Going out in the evening is a military operation for a lone parent, organising babysitters, and my parents are a huge help, looking after Freddie when I go to London for work, but I don’t want to put upon them too much, so Amy would mostly come to us.’

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