I’m not inviting my sister to my baby shower after she stole my dream names for her own child

• A woman revealed her sister stole her baby names she picked for her own child
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A woman revealed she is not inviting her sister to her baby shower as she stole her baby names for her own child. 

Taking to Reddit, the mother-to-be, who is believed to be from the US, claimed the argument isn’t just about the baby name but also the ‘malicious comments, lack of compassion, and the overall pettiness’ from her sibling. 

Explaining the situation she revealed her sister stole her pre planned baby names, Violet for a girl, and Carson for a boy, after she had a miscarriage.

The sister shockingly said: ‘You might never have kids, you can’t just keep those names in reserve forever.’ 

However the woman is now currently pregnant but her sibling has already used her baby names for her own child.    

A woman revealed on Reddit she is not inviting her sister to her baby shower as she stole her baby names for her own child (stock image) 

The post read: ‘AITA for not inviting my sister to my baby shower? My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for several years. We had a really hard time conceiving, but after a few years of trying we finally got pregnant. 

‘We told our family the news, and told them the baby names we had picked: Violet for a girl, and Carson for a boy. 

‘We unfortunately lost the baby in the second trimester. Then we experienced two more miscarriages (both in the first trimester), and went through a couple more rounds of failed IVF. It was a very difficult and traumatic time for us.

‘We visited my family over the 2022 winter holidays, and my sister announced that she was pregnant. 

‘I was genuinely happy for her, until she told us the names they’d chosen: Violet for a girl, Carson for a boy. 

‘I took her aside and told her that I was very happy for her pregnancy, but hurt and confused that she would choose our baby names, especially with everything we’ve been through. 

‘And she basically said, ‘don’t try to pull the miscarriage card on me, you can’t call dibs on a name.’

I tried talking to her a couple more times about it, but each time she’d say things like ‘you might never have kids, you can’t just keep those names in reserve forever,’ and was just so hurtful. 

‘I stopped bringing it up for the sake of keeping the peace, and after a few months she told my parents she wasn’t going to use either of those names. But wouldn’t tell anybody what name they HAD chosen.

‘Fast forward to a couple months ago, and she gave birth to her baby girl: Violetta Karsyn. And I’m just so hurt.

Taking to Reddit , the mum-to-be, who is believed to be from the US, claimed the argument isn’t just about the baby name but also the ‘malicious comments, lack of compassion, and the overall pettiness’ from her sibling

‘I found out in the early spring that I’m pregnant, and I’m far enough along now that the doctors feel pretty good about everything, and we let our families know last month. 

‘My mom and her friends have planned a baby shower, but I told her I do not want my sister invited. 

‘My mom said I’m being an AH for not inviting her over the baby name, but at this point it’s not even about the name to me anymore. It’s the malicious comments, the lack of compassion, and the overall pettiness.

‘So tell me, good people of Reddit: Am I the a***** for not inviting my sister to my baby shower?

‘(For further context, prior to this my sister and I were decent terms. She’s always been competitive and attention seeking, and growing up she’d find ways to one-up me or make my special occasions, like my birthday party or HS graduation, all about her. But NEVER to this extent.)’

People rushed the the comments with their thoughts and many were shocked by her sisters behaviour.

One person wrote: ‘NTA. I’m usually on team ‘you can’t call dibs on a name’ but the fact that she chose BOTH names you had picked and is completely dismissive of the pain caused by a miscarriage makes it seem like this is more about hurting you than choosing a name she really likes.’

Another said: ‘She used both names but changed them both significantly. What the hell is that about?!’

People rushed to the comments with their thoughts and many were shocked by her sisters behaviour

Someone else said: ‘The fact that she used the boy name as a middle name for her daughter shows it was 100 per cent vindictive.’

While a fourth said: ‘NTA 100 per cent this! I have had 4 miscarriages and if someone chose the names we had talked about for those pregnancies, I would have been all the emotions – hurt, angry, confused. Especially my sister! She’s shown you who she is. Believe her.’ 

Others suggested that her sisters is ‘petty’ and needs ‘professional help’ as it clearly isn’t about the child’s name. 

One person said: ‘It says to me that she doesn’t really care about her child’s name as much as she wants to ‘win’ against her sister. Poor kid is going to grow up with Karsyn as a middle name.’

Another said: ‘The only way I could see it as ‘making sense’ was if they were family names. Otherwise it’s just pettiness.’

While someone else wrote: ‘Honestly what kind of person sacrifices their chance to name their own child something special just so they can spite their own sister? OPs sister needs professional help.’

A fourth agreed: ‘Really not about the names – it’s about the cruelty, the callous disregard for someone’s feelings and the deliberate effort taken to hurt. NTA.

‘Tell your mother that she gets to be involved if she drops the subject.’

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